From Psalm 4: 1) Answer me when I call, O God of my righteousness! You have given me relief when I was in distress. Be gracious to me and hear my prayer!
First, we see he prayed when he sensed conflict. He called upon god for an answer.
Second, he recounted how God worked in previous conflicts, and showed an expectation that He would do the same.
2) O men, how long shall my honor be turned into shame? How long will you love vain words and seek after lies? Selah
Third, he analyzed what was really bothering him in the conflict. He realized that the behaviors were reflecting poorly upon him and his reputation.
Fourth, he realized the source of the slights on his reputation was idle talk and gossip.
3) But know that the LORD has set apart the godly for himself; the LORD hears when I call to him.
Fifth, he focused upon his calling, his purpose on life, and God’s faithful promises for that.
4) Be angry, and do not sin; ponder in your own hearts on your beds, and be silent. Selah
Sixth, he cautioned himself not to react to the anger, but to allow God to analyze his own heart. He asks, “What was God doing in his life through this?”
5) Offer right sacrifices, and put your trust in the LORD.
Next, he committed to do the right thing and trust God to take care of the rest.
6) There are many who say, “Who will show us some good? Lift up the light of your face upon us, O LORD!”
Next, he realized the temptation to expect and ask God for a bed of roses, a smooth path.
7) You have put more joy in my heart than they have when their grain and wine abound.
And he realized that God uses the conflict for more good and to bring more joy than those who focus on the easy life.
8) In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety.
Finally, he acknowledges that this divine method of dealing with conflict is God’s way of sending peace and protecting us.
How beautiful it would be if God’s people followed this pattern for conflict resolution!