“For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives. It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? Hebrews 12:6-7.
Love does not protect the beloved from pain, only that pain that is not beneficial; pain that is unnecessary for our development. Loves sometimes sends pain. He said, “For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness.” Hebrews 12:10.
Love does not avoid confrontation. It only chooses that confrontation that will be beneficial; that which corrects us from our harmful behavior and choices. Love sometimes initiates confrontation. Therefore, He says, “If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons.” Hebrews 12:8.
Love does not avoid being offensive. It is something to be endured by the disciplined. God never said, “I will love you and not discipline you if it offends you. He said, “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” Hebrews 12:11.
Love seeks the best of the beloved, be it through pain or conflict. The difficulty is when we are expected to love one another in this.