Genesis 3:17-19 – And to Adam he said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, ‘You shall not eat of it,’ cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life; thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.”
An interesting thing is said about Adam and his first sin. Romans 5:12 says that Adam is responsible for bringing and sustaining sin into mankind (his offspring). A reflection of how Adam sinned may give us clues as to why.
Genesis 3:6 – So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate.
Genesis 3:12 – The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.“
Whereas Eve was deceived by the serpent, Adam, weighing his options, took and ate. In other words, he chose Eve over God. He chose marriage over holiness. He chose physical companionship above spiritual health.
Couples who live together and/or have sex before marriage fall into the same sin. They allow the desire of the moment and the physical to overcome their desire for God. Sometimes they will slide into marriage after this without confessing of that sin. I remind you; Adam confessed, God forgave, but the consequences remained and remain today.
Notice in Genesis 3:17-19 that the consequences of that sin affected every aspect of Adam’s life and the lives of his offspring. Basically, there is more at stake in purity before marriage than meets the casual eye. It, alone, can be the reason for 1) the failure of a marriage, 2) a difficult life, 3) unbearable heart-ache, regret and shame.
I also remind you that if you confess that sin, God is faithful to forgive you of that sin and cleanse you from the propensity to follow that same the pattern of sin (1 John 1:9); the sin of putting God second or lower. It is important that we confess our sins and stop the bleeding. He will give you grace to endure the consequences (Ephesians 1:7-9), but they shall remain (Galatians 6:7).